i'll mark today as the day something had really made a mark on me.

specifically a 13 page article.

about persuasion.

now i knew how some people can be that influential.

its all because of this.

People will do anything for those who encourage their dreams, justify their failures, allay their fears, confirm their suspicions and help them throw rocks at their enemies.

short to say,

basically human beings naturally tend to cling on other people to feel better.

so the people who says that they are very independent.

i'll just condemn them in their face.

and also i think this is how my dad made me do thing i don't really want to do.

refer below.

Parents often discourage their children’s dreams “for their own good” and attempt to steer them toward more “reasonable” goals. And children often accept this as normal until others come along who believe in them and encourage their dreams. When this happens, who do you think has more power? Parents or strangers?

so since i knew this stuffs already, i'm going to start countering already.

for now i will gain more of his trust by listening to him.

after that...only lutfi knows what will happen.

hehe evil plan eh?

negative things aside,

i've got a promise to work on.

i want to be someone who isn't selfish.

not the typical selfishness.

but emotionally selfish.

i'll stop thinking too much about myself and focus more on other people.

what they might need from me physchologically.

There is something else worth noting about this sentence(referring to the first bolded sentence in this post). It is missing something most people think is very important in the persuasion process. Here’s what’s missing: YOU! There isn’t a word about your wants, your needs, your hopes or your concerns. There isn’t a word about your offer or proposal. There isn’t a word about what you think. It is all about the other person.

this article really woke me up from my selfishness.

this i promise to everyone.

i WILL work towards this goal.

another resolution for 2009.

Joke of the day:

During cycling today, told Hafiz of how displeased my dad would be if he found out I went cycling.

Hafiz: Then what will your dad allow you to do?

Me: Pray?(super spontaneous face; I mean I'm stating the facts right?)

Lutfi: HAHAHAHA.